The Very Personal Task of Grieving

It's been a year since our littlest grandson Tyler went home to be with Jesus.  

My heart's cry as his grandma is to honor his much too brief life, to remember him out loud, to tell his story.  But profound words are simply unavailable to me.  You'd have to be a much better writer than I'll ever be to even begin to capture the incredibly deep wholehearted love of a family, the unspeakable impact of the death of a child on those who adore him, and the stunning, very individual, private grief journey that follows for each one who gathers 'round.

And I'm not sure I want to try or even should.  Some things in life are too very personal and should be honored as such.

But I do want the world to know that he was a real cutie, a significant little guy, oh so brave and trusting.  He had quite a personality and was cherished like crazy by all who had the joy of knowing him.  He will always hold a very special place in our hearts and yes, we still talk about him.  Not a day goes by that we don't recall him, miss him.

I can tell you that we are forever altered as a family.  And as individuals, we will never be the same.

So instead of digging around for words that just aren't capable of emerging, I simply offer you what I shared a year ago.  A Journey Through Grief ... and A Prayer for Those Who Grieve.  I'm also placing Jenn and Barry's Adopting Tyler story in your tender hands. 

I know that many of you have suffered loss as well.  I hear your souls' cry and I want you to know that you are not alone.  

Please don't let anyone tell you that there's some kind of magical three step formula to grieving well.  They're just kidding themselves and giving you false hope.  Yes, life goes on.  But grief is a very personal journey, a daunting, sometimes overwhelming task filled with winding bends, deep valleys, and yes, some mountaintop vistas.  And the whole process goes on much longer than you'd ever dreamed.  

But move forward?  Yes, you will.  Not easily, but yes, by God's never ending gracious mercy.  He will never leave you, He won't forsake you.  And He'll carry you as long as you need to be carried.

Oh yes, He most certainly will ...